6 Reasons Why You Are Stuck
Often, we find ourselves in a place where we can’t seem to move forward. We can’t focus, we can’t think right. We are just STUCK! This can happen in our jobs, projects, or relationships. Sometimes this state of being stuck is with us for a few days, a few weeks, or even a few years. It can be very detrimental.
Let’s Review the 6 Reasons Why You Are Stuck
1. You have limiting beliefs – It’s amazing how powerful your mind is. Believe it or not, but a belief from your childhood can hold you back from great success as an adult. How do you know if you have a limiting belief? No matter what you do, you just cannot seem to shift. It’s like being on a hamster wheel doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. One of the most critical things you can do for yourself is to discover the root cause of your limiting belief and heal it. This sounds easy but the problem is that many of these limiting beliefs that hold you back are buried deep in your subconscious mind. Traditional coaching does not access these memories. There are many cutting-edge tools that we use at Peak Performance Mindset Coaching for eliminating those unconscious beliefs quickly. I like to say it is like time travel. You can’t change what happened, but you can change the way you feel about it by going back to the origin of the event and releasing the pain associated with it. Your mind will no longer focus on the negative event and shift you into a more positive direction.
2. You lack confidence – We all suffer from lack of confidence at some point in our lives. Many of us fake it until we make it. Being perfect is not realistic, but doing the best you can is. I remember watching the movie Iron Lady starring Meryl Streep playing Margaret Thatcher. Margaret Thatcher actually never intended on actually getting elected, she just wanted to make a point. She suddenly found herself Prime Minister and having no idea what she was doing. She learned on the job and never let on how frightened she was. Impostor syndrome can affect the best of us, but when you have the tools to release the fear and get into the present moment, right now everything is OK. As long as you focus on what is happening now in this moment there is nothing else to think about. When you remove the fear, you bring in room for creativity and the ability to be at your Peak Mindset.
3. You fear a loss of control. You can’t control what happens, but you do have control of how you react to something. Believe it or not, a situation that appears to cause you great pain can suddenly become a gift, it’s all in your perspective. When you let go of what is out of your control and focus on what you can control, you move into a peak performance mindset.
4. You experience analysis/paralysis. This is the inability to make a decision and it could be a small or large decision. The paralysis is due to our need for control so we try to predict certainty. Procrastination creates a state where we do nothing and are unable to act. Doing nothing is worse than doing something. If you think yourself through to the worst-case scenario, it is never as bad as you think it could be. Over analysis is an addiction. Learn to stay in the present moment, inform yourself as much as you can and create an arbitrary deadline. No decision is ever completely perfect. Few decisions are final and most can be adjusted over time.
5.You have a fear of failure which can be similar to analysis/paralysis. What is the price of inaction? Failure. Just start out and fake if until you make it. Visualize success. Set goals that you work on every day and keep leaning forward. Having a coach or accountability partner cheering you along can make the difference between success and failure.
6.You compare yourself to others. There will always be someone who has more money, greater success, a bigger home, is better looking, and the list goes on. Comparison often creates resentment towards others and towards ourselves. Comparisons deprive us of joy. There is no one in this world who has the same talents you do. You are uniquely you and there will never be another you. Don’t waste your talent.
When you shift your mindset, you can look at things differently.
(A TAOIST STORY)
There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically. “Maybe,” the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. “Maybe,” replied the old man.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “Maybe,” answered the farmer.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “Maybe,” said the farmer.